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I was with the same woman for nearly 4 years. We spent almost every day together. We were best friends and even worked at the same place. It was great but started to go south. I think around the 2 year mark, things started changing for us. She started wanted to spend time apart. I got rapped up in school. We never fought or anything either. It is almost like we drifted apart a bit. Well, this past summer I finished school and we started spending more time together and it wasn't the same. She was very cold with me. Blew me off more and more. Very affectionate. I finally got pissed and said "What is with you, do you want to break up!?" and then it all came out. She didn't have the heart to do it, but she had wanted to split up since the end of 2016.

Needless to say I was a wreck when it all came out. It has been 5 weeks since we split up and I am just lost. I don't know what to do with myself. Every time something happens I find myself wanting to text or call her to share it with her. She said it was best if we didn't talk for awhile.

I found out the other day she was dating someone else, some older guy. He is like 12 years older than her! I am just confused.
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You can't blame her nor blame yourself. It is just that you have grown apart for sometime and it brought you both changes. Sad to say there was a change of heart on her part. She happened to meet other people, experienced more in life, and that made her know more about herself, and her desires. Probably, she was more happy without you and she wants to keep it that way. Don't get me wrong, you can be a really nice guy for a really nice woman, but accept it, she is not for you. She is no longer happy with you, and you will never be happy with her anymore. Be thankful that it came out eventually. It is normal to suffer the pain, in time you will get over it. Start going out and mingle with friends and relatives. Refrain from being idle, rather be productive. Make a better version of yourself, so whoever you will meet in the future and fall in love with, will be the proudest to have you.
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Time to upgrade your gps gadget. :D
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She likely needs someone more mature. That is why she is dating older. Don't take it personal.

I would say that it came down to you both growing apart for a period of time that allowed her interests to change without you which meant that she wanted something different. While you did go back, and you wanted to restart everything again - it was already too late.

I feel like the best thing you can do is focus on you. Find what makes you happy outside of a relationship.
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Thanks for your replies. I know I need to stay focused on keeping busy. I guess in the moment it still stings. She was so much a apart of my life that it is strange to go from texting daily to nothing at all.

But it probably is for the best. I guess it will take me time. I just feel so utterly sad at times.
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sometimes people just grow apart..my feeling is if she wanted to go theres nothing u can do but let her..it may hurt but do u want someone that doesn't want u? sorry for what ur going thru..been there myself..tc
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